Some times it can be hard being a friend. I a have friend, one of the nicest guys you will ever meet. I became friends with Sam about four years back. We meant at a machine shop where we both worked. Sam had asked if I could give him a ride to the liquor store to cash his check. I told him sure. It was late evening and the banks where closed. We had both went in and cashed our checks at the same time, same place, but different cashiers. We got our money and head back to work. On the ride back Sam was counting his money and realize that the cashier had over paid him one hundred dollars. Well as we were sitting around after we got back Sam was telling some other people about his good luck I thought to my self well maybe I had better count my money. I started count and as luck would have it I had been shorted one hundred dollars. Now remember we had gone to two different people to cash our checks, so its not like they made a mistake and gave Sam my money. It was just one of those crazy things that happened. Well of course I was very upset because I couldn't pay my bills now. I didn't know what I was going to do. Sam out of the kindness of his heart came back to my machine just a few minutes later and handed me the hundred dollars. I hadn't even real known this guy for more then a couple of weeks and here he is giving me a hundred dollars.
Well after that day we became really good friends. The thing is Sam has a lot of problems in his life. Over the years he has gotten in to a lot of trouble. Sam has been arrested a number of times, put on probation for 5 years, and been in and out of rehab. The most recent trouble he gotten into is gambling. I mean I have tried to help Sam in anyway I can think of, I just don't know if I can keep helping him. In a way I feel sorry for him. Sam has no family and not too many good friends. I mean don't get me wrong he has nobody to blame but him self for his trouble, but he is a good friend and I hate that he can't get straightened up. Sam is one of those people that just gets into trouble know matter what he does. The guy just can't catch a break.
I mean don't get me wrong I know Sam and how he is and I know what most of you are thinking. Sam is a good guy he has never borrowed money or asked me to do anything to get me in trouble. I try to be a good friend, but it does get old at times when he is drunk or spun out on drugs. That is why I say, it can be hard bring a friend.
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A lot of people that are trouble are "good" by nature. They mean well, but sometimes you have to consider what effect their friendship will have on your life. I'm sure you've heard "You're only as good as the company you keep." Well, there's a lot of truth to that. If he gamble like crazy and occasionally gets "spun out" you must realize eventually you will be dragged into that mess. If I were you, I would keep my distance as much as possible. It's hard when you want to help, but most importantly you need to help yourself.
ReplyDeleteI have alot of those friends too, the ones that would do anything for you, any time you need it. They would give you the shirt off their back if needed, but are freqently in trouble and need a favor in return.
ReplyDeleteI understand it is hard to not be there for them, as they would always be there for you. I know personally I feel like what kind of friend would you be to leave them, when they need you the most. At the same time sometimes you have to let them pick themselves back up or you will end up carrying them for the rest of your friendship.